“Nobody can give you wiser advice than yourself.” ~Cicero
The word decide comes from the Latin decidere, which means “to cut off from.” To make a decision, you must cut away other potential directions. If you remain open to lots of different directions at the same time, you get confusion and fuzziness. When you commit yourself to one specific direction, clarity is the natural result.
Why we need clarity of thought
I’m sure you’ve read that clarity and focus are important qualities for success. Decide what you want, and then pursue it with passion and energy.Clarity of thought guides you to make right decision quickly, give perspective to think in right direction. Great leaders are people who naturally have mental clarity, and mental clarity comes from not having a lot on your mind.
As a human being to have clarity is to have power. With clarity, we can narrow our choices down very easily with all of its pros and cons. However, there are those who lack clarity and for them, double-mindedness plaques them with doubt, indecisiveness and feeling stuck.
If
you want more clarity, then it’s time to treat the generation of clarity as a
serious undertaking that’s entirely 100% your responsibility. It’s not going to
happen unless you make it happen.
·
Too many
options and/or choices.
·
Not
enough knowledge.
·
Other people’s
opinions.
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Lack of
goals and a vision.
·
Not
knowing why you want it.
But
what if you’re feeling uncertain and don’t have a lot of clarity about your
future direction? What if you can’t decide what you’d like to do next?
1.
Attain a good quality and quantity of sleep: A sound 7 hr sleep will make you fresh in the morning. Sleep
is essential for clarity, providing rest and restoration for mind and body.
Sleep is no doubt a critical ingredient in a healthy lifestyle. If I sleep
poorly, I feel like an irritable, unproductive, unmotivated, unhappy, and sick.
2. Get regular exercise:
Try light aerobic exercise, such as brisk walking, swimming
or casual cycling to increase the circulation of oxygen and glucose. Any sports in the morning are good as it will
take out all of your tension and frustration and clear ur mind.
- Narrow your choices
If you
don’t have any choices to begin with – it is not that you’re stuck but you’re
not trying hard enough to find options. Grab a pen and paper, write down all
your thoughts and available options, once you have enough options to choose
from, narrow them down based on pros and cons. Choose what is best for you and
go through the process of elimination. Find what you like and that makes you
happy and alive.
“To make a decision is to remove all other
alternative choices.” – William Shaker
4. Surround yourself with Successful
People and listen to them
“People who lack the clarity, courage, or determination to follow their
own dreams will often find ways to discourage yours. Live your truth and don't
EVER stop!”
I will respectfully listen to anyone else’s
opinion and will even be engaged in a friendly discussion regarding an opinion
that someone else has made regarding my life or business but thats where it
stops. You must ask yourself — “is this person ten times more successful than I
am?” If so, then his or her opinion is valuable. Make it a rule to only listen
to people who’re a lot more successful than you’re.
5.
"Everything is figureoutable." -
Marie Forleo
Every
problem has a solution. Books are coaches, nature provide remedies, Google is
our assistant and YouTube is an on-demand visual demonstration. There are also
7 billion wise people on the planet, who we can connect with by going out,
picking up the phone or reaching out to on social media. When people or the
internet can't help, prayer and meditation give direction and inspire actions.
6.
Stick
with one primary goal at a time.
If
you have a lot of goals, it’s easy to fall into the trap of jumping around
between different goals and making little progress on any of them. If you want
to actually achieve a goal, focus on one key goal single-mindedly until it’s
achieved. Then move on to another goal. This is what top achievers do. Having
too many competing goals will simply scatter your energies.
7.
Explore
and experiment.
Sometimes
it’s tough to set a clear goal because you don’t know what you’re getting into.
In that case you can experiment in order to gain clarity about the goal space
you’re exploring.
Doing
what you’re already doing won’t give you more clarity. Thinking about what to
do next and writing down some goals can certainly help, but that isn’t always
enough. You’ll enjoy more clarity when you’re in motion than when you’re
standing still. A pilot has better visibility from the air than from the
ground.
If you do not go after what you want you will never have it.
If you do not ask the answer will always be no.
If you do not step forward you will always be in the same place.
Same
goes for clarity, you need to go for it, it will not come to you. Don’t wait
for clarity to come to you. You’re responsible for creating your own clarity
from within. If you lack clarity, then get busy creating it. If you can achieve
clarity by doing written exercises from the comfort of your home, great. If
not, then leave your comfort zone behind, go outside, and explore what’s out
there!
LET ME ASK YOU
What
was your biggest takeaway today? Which tip are you most excited to use? Please,
leave a comment and let me know!
And if
you know anyone who could benefit from this, please share it. You'll be helping
them out and me too.
Good post Nitin. Even though I help people with decision making through my program and my coaching, I still find myself struggling to make decisions from time to time. We're all human right. You have some good advice here, very clear. ;)
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